Why Only the Happily Single Find True Love


One of the most important principles for choosing a lover sensibly is not to feel in any hurry to make a choice. Being satisfied with being single is a precondition of satisfactory coupledom. We cannot choose wisely when remaining single feels unbearable. We have to be utterly at peace with the prospect of many years of solitude in order to have any chance of forming a good relationship, or we’ll love no longer being single rather more than we love the partner who spared us being so. Unfortunately, after a certain age, society makes singlehood feel dangerously unpleasant. Communal life starts to wither. People in couples are too threatened by the independence of the single to invite them around very often in case they’re reminded of something they might have missed. Friendship and sex are, despite all the gadgets, still remarkably hard to come by. No wonder if when someone slightly decent, but not quite so comes along, we cling to them to our eventual, enormous cost. When sex was only available within marriage, people recognized that this would lead some people to marry for the wrong reasons, to obtain something that was artifically restricted in society as a whole. Sexual liberation was intended to allow people to have a clearer head when choosing who they really wanted to be with, but this process remains only half finished. Only when we can make sure that being single is potentially as secure, warm and fulfilling as being in a couple will we know that people are choosing to pair up for the right reasons. It’s time to liberate companionship from the shackles of coupledom, and make it as widely and as easily available as sexual liberators wanted sex to be. In the meantime, we should strive to make ourselves as much at peace as we can with the idea of being alone for a very long time. Only then do we stand a chance of deciding to be with someone on the basis of their own and true merits.

100 thoughts on “Why Only the Happily Single Find True Love”

  1. I think there's no way to find true love in this world ..
    First time I was hurt ..
    Second time I was hurt ..
    Third time I don't wanna hurt again ๐Ÿ˜

  2. I could enjoy being single, but the part that sucks is not being able to have constant sex and cuddles and intimacy. That's the dark side of singledom

  3. What kind of retarded british nonsense is this?! You wait for marriage so you're worth something. It's alot better than going to bars and being a piece of meat in someone's perverted fantasy behind close doors.
    Let's make this simple here are some the pros of being married.
    *You make babies
    *you make more babies and shape previous babies lives.
    *you become apart of something bigger then your sex drive.
    *you don't feel guilty having sex.
    *you and your love are dignified in both of your sights because you both earned that respect.
    *you;re not just compelled not to cheat, you don't do so because that person has become apart of who your are.
    *you grow through life with someone as a witness to your accomplishments.
    * you become humbled by the fact that people are more important than your base liberal safe zone.
    *you get to see your children's lives unfold as a movie, and have the honor helping them decide their future.
    *you have a life companion, to experience and explore life with.
    *you have someone who's held to an honor bound commitment to not do you wrong.
    *you sacrifice some of your most favorite things because they are so dear to you.
    *you can be yourself and take off the "popular mask" around your husband/wife.
    *you can have someone hold your hand if you're in the hospital.
    *you get a second opinion with your inner most desires, dreams, and mysteries.
    *you feel a sense of completion when 8 billion people on the planet would rather get off doing something immoral.
    *you can believe in Jesus as God without being made fun of.
    *you can have sex endlessly without worry of disease, or sickness.
    *you can have your wife document and count all the amazing things you do for her so you she can put that cheesy crap in the book of world records.
    *you can have someone cry at your funeral who can tell people who you used to be
    Real marriage between a man and a woman actually under God, is the most amazing thing humanity has ever accomplished. Regardless the society we live in, once you people have gotten to the point where common sense doesn't register anymore, you'll be the consequence of your own decadent decisions.
    Im desperate to find the person I'm supposed to walk into eternity with, this is deeper than your sex drive, naturalistic opinions, and perverted desires. They're are mysteries in love that go deeper than your libido, and are more important than your feelings. I can give at least one example as to why I have to find this woman of true love, and its called "home".
    The home isn't what box you put the woman in, SHE IS the home. I want to go HOME and so do other romantic, nice guy, straight, Godly men. Black, white, asian or otherwise, the original natural man is looking for his home. You're a joke for down playing something like that.
    I like the old christian version better, it's honorable both for men and women.

  4. With due respect but I cannot support what is told in this video. Even though Alain sounds friendly and wise as always. I am living on my own for 15 years now. Yes, it is not bad. Sometimes it's great to come home, close the door and just being able to do whatever you like. Spent the whole day naked, behave in a way you would never do with company. But it is no shame to need somebody. It is no shame and no weakness to wish there'd be someone to share. And it does not mean that you would hurry getting into the first available relationship. No! There might be a lot of people doing this. But I never would marry or live together with someone I don't love just because I could not stand being on my own. I also realize that it is a high possibility that I will die alone. But so do many of the married people. Because they usually don't die at the same day. And I prefer to be lonely on my own than to be lonely together. The thing is: Unfortunately there is no formula, no prescription for a relationship. The best thing you can do is, being yourself. That might scare some potential partners – or not. It is a risk. But: No pain, no gain.
    Again, I like this channel mostly. But this video is simply taking the matter much to easy. And Alain should be careful not to become a guru. Thank you anyway.

  5. I have been alone for 25 dang years! Isn't that good enough! I just keep getting rejected. Twice by the same woman! ๐Ÿ˜ž

  6. This is all pure Bullshit. I have been happily single doing my thing when I was in high school. Did I meet my love? No. Then came university where I was engaged with studies, did I meet anyone? No. Being happy single is in no way predictor you'll find someone. Life isn't a movie where you bump into a your "true love" in a mall and sparks fly and fall in love. From my observations so far, relationships come down easily to people who are considered conventionally attractive in society. They barely have to put into any effort. For them, Luck seems to follow them everywhere, all the time. They would, however, claim it's because they were happy being single and confidence that led them to their partners but that's farther from the truth. They got "lucky" in love because they were within the conventionally attractive margin, so eventually they were noticed by someone. The rest Avg/below avg guys? They are invisible to most women

    "Learn to be happy yourself"

    Translation: This video is basically saying, if you're just Avg, learn to be happy with dying alone, without ever having any relationship.

  7. start from the beginning. the one constant in the universe is the speed of light (physics), it is not a deity (religion) and is not nothing (atheism). Universes alternate between matter and anti-matter. electricity alternates between positive and negative electrons. civilizations alternate between patriarchy (men with blind girls and castrated boys) and matriarchy (women with husbands). Half of human civilizations, most men have no genitals for a relationship, and women are bound to a master.

  8. If you're happily single, you can't love. You don't understand love. What you call "love" is a a fucking mockery of what real love is. Love is emotional hunger that consumes you. Love is a religion. The person you love is just a partner. Like a dance. You love to love more that you love to be with a specific person. Just like when you like to dance, it doesn't really matter too much who you're dancing with.

  9. Not many people can be happily single. That is why almost everyone wants to avoid being alone, even if it means being in an unhappy relationship. Humans are like birds. We are wired to pair up and thrive in a flock. Being happily single is a result of conscious effort, not a naturally occurring phenomenon. However, this video offers good advice. Because if you're single, being happy is the best recipe. It's a waste of time to be unhappy. There is no guarantee you'll meet the right person either. So being happy is the only way to go no matter what happens.

  10. If you choose to be single and you're happy with that, then stay single. There is a difference between being single and being with someone but, it depends on the person on how they handle that.

  11. Got that right. We got too obsessed with sex, as if it was the key to our loneliness's liberation. Which is not. To be single and happy is to dive deep within your own intimacy and enjoy this journey. Life can give you what your heart craves for if you understand how it works ๐Ÿ™‚ And it takes patience!

  12. This comment is not productive at all. You can say whatever, but I saw the title of this video and it made me mad. It made me mad because itโ€™s like the universe plays a sick, cruel joke on you by being like, โ€œOh, youโ€™re sad and you want to be with someone? Tough shit. Youโ€™ll get no one and like it.โ€ But then when youโ€™re feeling good and enjoying the single life, all of a sudden people start coming into your life like, โ€œI want to be with you. I wanna spend my life with you.โ€ And Iโ€™m sitting here, thinking to myself, โ€œUm? No. Where were you when I wanted you? Nowhere to be found. You didnโ€™t care when I felt like crap; So, why do you care now?โ€ Iโ€™ll never understand why that happens. When you want someone, theyโ€™re never there; And when you donโ€™t want someone, they donโ€™t leave you alone. Itโ€™s so backwards to me. Oh well. I just wanted to get it off my chest. Not like anyone cares anyways…

  13. I genuinely don't think that being in a relationship is for me, I just think it only serves to hold me back.

  14. The difficult part is to tell people that I've been single for a very long time, they may think that I'm not so good in relationship s

  15. Only happily singles find love? It is a myth not a fact. I have been happily single for 25 years (half of my life) and I have yet found love in these 25 years (not that I wasnโ€™t looking).

  16. Great video,Love can come when you least expect it.Some times its right infront of you and you haven't noticed it.https://youtu.be/7a2IzqSEH64

  17. So true!๐Ÿ‘ โ€œ times up/downs,happiness,health-wise,humble & kind โ€œ as much as possible ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘โœŒbeing single is awesome ๐Ÿ‘๐ŸผโœŒ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜€

  18. We arenโ€™t going to talk about the Victorian bird fucking ?

    Great video and advice. Odd and amazing illustration ๐Ÿ˜‚

    Also birds having lots of cats. How high was this person.

  19. Yes my sister married due to social pressure of getting old now she a depressed divorced single mother working to just to pay the rent.
    Relations really can drag your life straight to hell.

  20. Absolutely spot on (as usual!) I have always found that, the SECOND I felt sorted as a single person, someone new came into my life. It's nice to see an explanation as to why…

  21. Bulshit the happily single do not find true love that's bullshit that's a damn crock of shit specially if you're not attractive not great looking good looking handsome your ugly in a piece of shit like me and you weigh only a hundred and thirty some pounds for under a hundred and thirty some lb and your 6ft tall and your skinny beanpole why the hell would a woman want somebody like me I'm ugly I have nothing to offer women in my country to USA none but pieces of shit I hope they fucking choke because ain't nothing but assholes there to d'amitie realistic in America you can't find true love in America no more it's about what kind of car you got it's about what kind of physique you have it's about what kind of home you have it's about how much money you have in your bank account it's about how good you are in bed it's all about material things that's all they care about they're looking for perfection in my country a man with the has everything that's perfect that's why women are so damn difficult I'm trying to find one because of the way they are that's their purpose in life is to be picky selfish and only care about them damn selves and what they can get out of a man. Because the good ones are actually gone there's nothing but trouble. Asshole horndog bitches out there in my country in the US here there ain't nothing great about this country because I'm women went from good the worse now they expect you to have everything and they don't care how they get it and if they don't they throw you away. Because if they don't get what they want or what they're looking for an initially saying that you're not good enough and you can attract them because you don't have enough to win their heart they automatically throw you in the damn sewer because they can't get what they want out of you or they can't find what they're looking for in you they throw you away plain and simple they're too damn difficult to complex and all they care about is their damn self in this country it's sad๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ซ all they care about is dollar signs and material things sex money fancy cars big muscles houses that's all they care about that's all they want if no man has not even one of those they throw you away you have to have them all or nothing because that's how they are in America. They're pathetic so don't come to America looking for love cuz you ain't going to find true love it does not exist anymore.

  22. How can you be happily single if you want to find love or whatever? Could it be that too many people are tired of being told what they apparently want. Single hood is not evil or sad and maybe not all people want sex.

  23. Also, if you seek "true" love, stay off the dating websites. NOTHING in life that is MEANT to happen, happens by "force," and internet dating is "forced" dating. Conversely, EVERYTHING in life that is MEANT to happen, happens NATURALLY. So, "be patient" (as the video suggested), and know that your "special someone" will appear in your life in due time. "How will you know when he/she appears?"…You'll know.

  24. The majority of people find there life partners when their young adults. Without going through an extended period of time being single. This video goes against what happens in reality.

  25. I find the idea a little to idealistic. Obviously, free-fall co-dependence is not the best basis for relationship. However, we all have our co-dependant moments, so I wouldnโ€™t be concerned if I sometimes felt I really needed a partner. We are all inter-dependent with varying degress of co-dependence. I wouldnโ€™t sweat it.

  26. After 50 years of feminist propaganda, western women are terrible partners who HATE men. Stay single, gentlemen. The game is rigged, so the only smart move is, DON'T PLAY.

  27. Women choose men because of sexual liberation and endless options for women. Social media has explored the choices for women. Not saying right choices of course.

  28. Happily single for years ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ’ฅ๐ŸŽฌ๐Ÿ“ฝ๐ŸŽง I got my own ish, if someone wants to share it….๐Ÿ“๐Ÿง๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™‚๏ธ

  29. Widowed nearly a decade – I have spent this time isolated and alone. In
    this time, I have observed how selfish many people can be and are, with
    regard to being involved in a relationship. These past years, I have
    found the depth of my soul, created works of art, bonded with my fur
    kids, and they with me. It has been mostly, a wonderful time being
    alone. However, there have also been, periodic bouts of crying (healing), and
    loneliness, which in turn, lead, to the thought of being, once again in a
    loving, monogamous relationship – Because, physical and mental
    connections, as well as enjoying hugs from people that truly care for
    you, are important too.

  30. It's also because your not clinging to them for sex. Or the fact that you are nothing without them. You are looking to spend a life with someone you could let go of. Only because, it's your decision to spend your life with them. Let the sex be good, because when it is truly romantic, nothing can beat it.

  31. I am walking example of this topic. I was happy being single probably the happiest among my mates and didn't care about the lame jokea and now i found happiness in my partner

  32. I feel like Iโ€™m happily single, have been for over 3 years, Iโ€™m 23. Thereโ€™s just so much I want to accomplish. Iโ€™ll give time away from my tasks to someone that I really care about, but it has to be the right person.

  33. So married people all got married for wrong reasons and having sex with your spouse is now bad? And people who just wait and date forever and have sex with multiple people along the way, are doing it the right way?

  34. Very Good! You've got to have strong self esteem and if a woman tries to humiliate you even once because she's threatened by your superior quality toss her to the curb. Been happy alone for 20 yrs!!!

  35. I agree that being independent and happily single is important.
    But if you can leave a relationship and resume your single life without feeling ANY sadness, then youโ€™ve never even felt that feeling we call โ€œloveโ€

  36. I absolutely believe in this..it's only when we are at peace with ourselves will we get into a relationship for the right reasons ..not to possess or want something from the other but just to share the love that's in abundance from within..if only everyone gets this in its true sense we save ourselves from a lot of heartache

  37. if your still comparing to the "norm" of media when too long seems like too late in life, thats when you know they are a slave to other people''s opinion of them. Beware those types. They''d parade off a cliff if they thought it bring back highschool glory days. Coupled people are silly because they attempt to show off couplely things to the secret people they really wanted the attention of but couldnt, so they settled for who ever there with now. If those were really enviable activities it would be self evident, but instead it becomes some new culture, alien and foreign to our sensibilities like they got cult brainwashed into liking it for being too far invested already. I dont envy their peer pressure caving in, if theres something about that lifestyle not mockable we could agree it ruled and thered be no debate. Otherwise its just rushing in to greeting card corny lifestyle when your sense of humor is still sharp enough to call it cringy, but hey there always some ulterior motive when people stop being kids it seems. Not for me, someday, but not yet. Enjoy fake smoozing like ur fancier than I knew you really werent, im sure some authoritarian feels validated by that dying of youthful freespiritedness because now they arent alone in the facade.

  38. that's a coupled society we live in, and that makes us needy. at 35, i would surely prefer 3 close friends instead of a husband, but everyone is married, so i find myself looking for marriage too because there's no other way

  39. Just spend a day in family court to watch the proceedings and then tell me you still want to get married.

  40. Tbh I thought that being single is a great way of valuing yourself & exploring your true self. It is important to know and respect yourself before you can love someone else, because it all starts within

  41. This is stupid how can you be happy alone.. no one is happy alone, to be alone is not human. This concept will lead to more emotional problems, one night stands will increase in the younger generation which will causes more psychological problem of trust and self esteem when leaving that person the next day, and when we do find the right person we will feel something is wrong with your life because we have been trying to be happy being alone all this time. Please stop programming people, God created marriage for male and female and their destructive behaviors, because mankind is unstable. Marriage is there to help with unstable metal problems but even that is distorted by satanic cults in the media movies and lustful music which has crept inside marriage fro the past 40years and has split the harmony of both individual and creating a chain reaction through out the world, divorce rate was 5% in the 60s and 70s now it's 69% and even higher in some stats…this is got to stop, bring back true Christianity the world views are destroying this world…

  42. This is probably right because when you're not happy single you tend to choose the wrong partner because of choosing too fast

  43. I am happily single. I found my true love in spirituality and my art. If I meet a right companion I am happy. If not I am happy too.

  44. Not much marriage material to choose from as Western women have been utterly ruined by feminism.

    With thier feminist indoctrinated minds Western women who can hardly cook a meal from basic ingredients or even clean a house sit complaining in a comfortable chair in an airconditioned or heated environment made by men, in factories, designed, built and run by men.

    They drive nice cars invented, built and maintained by men.
    They use a computer invented and programmed by men, built in a factory by men, using electricity discovered by men, transported on a national grid of power lines that were planned and engineered, maintained and made by men, using electricity generated using methods invented by men, in power stations built by and run by men.

    They use the Internet, which uses protocols invented by men, transmitted over cables laid by men, in an international network invented, planned, and made by men. They are fuelled by food that was the result of farms and agriculture planned and created by men, delivered to them by global food networks and transport systems invented and built by men. They are diagnosed and healed from sickness by scientific methods and medicines in hospitals where their new born children are cared for in sterile safe environments, invented and built by men, They live in houses that were invented, planned and built by men, They are entertained by programmes transmitted globally by signal technologies that are beamed directly onto large large and small viewing screens invented and built by men, They are kept warm or cool by technologies invented and built by men, in cities with roads, bridges, shopping malls, movie theatres, hospitals, restaurants and other infrastructure planned and built by men.

    They drink clean water piped into their houses by a national network planned and built by men, from reservoirs and treatment plants that were planned, built and run by men. They are protected by laws invented by men, and enforced by men who risk their lives every day to protect citizens, protect their property and to protect their country.

    Women enjoy the benefits of everything men discovered, invented, created, built and maintain and are treated with special favours (by law) and allowed to do anything they wish in the society men created, even though lives are constantly put at risk by lowering mens higher standards to allow women to gain entry into the military, police and fire services.

    And yet there are so many western women who are so privileged and devoid of hardship that they spend their time constantly complaining that all of this is not enough for them, that men should be ashamed, that men have toxic masculinity that men have too much in this society that they made, and that men need to give even more to women because they are entitled to it just because they were born a women…and emasculated men agree to it.

    Take away everything that men have done, and western feminist indoctrinated women would be sitting outside in the cold rain without anything to eat until a man comes along and offers them shelter, food, warmth and security.

    Women don't create things other than drama and chaos. They are consumers. They don't defend the world nor maintain it. Men built the world, how about we send all women to their own continent and let them start a civilization from scratch.

    Western women are self-entitled fat ass deluded state backed bio weapons who routinely without an ounce of guilt destroy and steal hard working, faithful honest mens children, wealth and livelyhoods and plunge men into abject street poverty or even worse suicide by divorce raping them at a feely whim with no fault divorce with no repercussions or accountability. Western women also wrongly think they are equal to or are superior to men.

    What sane man would go anywhere near poisonous parasites like that just for access to poon. it's bizarre behaviour for any right thinking man yet these deluded women who bring absolutely nothing to a relationship still complain…

    "WHERE HAVE ALL THE GOOD MEN GONE".

    Marriage is the most irrational decision a modern man can make if he wants to survive free and intact.
    Feminism has ruined the chance for most guys (and women) to have a healthy, fruitful, loving productive relationship that we all want. Of course it's all mens fault Bwhahaha.

    Most men, after reaching a particular age want a family, and we're trying to find answers to minimize the risks. No thanks to women these days, mainly raised by single mothers. Sexually promiscuous, no respect for men, no value for the traditional family, materialistic, shallow, and a court system skewed towards whooooooorz.

    This phenomena, while incredibly frustrating for men, will ironically ultimately hurt women the most. Guys have checked out of the endeavor of finding a wife as its just to dangerous and self preservation comes first.

    Billions of women exist on this planet, spoiled low quality privileged, self entitled western women are the bottom of the barrel and nothing special.

    Non feminist Western women need to speak out against third wave feminism which is all about man hating and power. Stand up for your fathers, brothers, uncles, grandfathers, and sons. If you donโ€™t, who will? Men are attacked if we do.

    My comment represents the beliefs of millions of Western men, and it's about time too.

    Enlightened women and guys please share these truths.

    Plus all men should read these articles.

    How to be happy.
    https://illimitablemen.com/2015/10/22/how-to-be-happy/

    Monk mode.
    https://illimitablemen.com/2014/04/13/monk-mode/

    Self-Actualization.
    https://thequintessentialmind.com/self-actualization/

    Recommended books –

    The Manipulated man by Esther Villar.

    Bachelor Pad Economics by Aaron Clarey (a must read for young men starting out).

    The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi.

    No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover.

  45. I had been happily single for 18 years before meeting my current and first boyfriend. 3 years later, and we are still going stronger than ever๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

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