What Is the Sunday Evening Feeling?

It descends, normally, between around 5pm
and 7.30pm and can be at its height at six, especially when the weather is turning and
the last of the daylight has burnished the sky a shade of crimson pink. The Sunday evening
feeling is ordinarily associated with work, and the idea of going back to an office after
a pleasant break. But this doesn’t quite cover the complexity of what is going on:
it isn’t just that we have some sort of work to do that is dragging down our mood,
but that we are going back to the wrong sort of work even while we are in dire ignorance
of what the right sort of work might actually be. We all have inside us what we might term
a true working self, a set of inclinations and capacities that long to exert themselves
on the raw material of reality. We want to turn the vital bits of who we are into jobs,
and ensure that we can see ourselves reflected in the services and products we are involved
in turning out. This is what we understand by the right job, and the need for one is
as fundamental and as strong in us as the need to love. We can be as broken by a failure
to find our professional destiny as to identify an intimate companion. Feeling that we are
in the wrong job, and that our true vocation lies undiscovered, is not a minor species
of discomfort: it will be the central existential crisis of our lives. We normally manage to
keep the insistent calls of the true working self at bay during the week. We are too busy
and too driven by an immediate need for money. But it reliably comes to trouble us on Sunday
evenings. Like a ghost suspended between two worlds, it has not been allowed to live or
to die, and so bangs at the door of consciousness, requiring resolution. We are sad, or panicked,
because a part of us recognises that time is running out and that we are not presently
doing what we should with what remains of our lives. The anguish of Sunday evening is
our conscience trying to stir us inarticulately into making more of ourselves. In this sense,
Sunday evenings have a history. Until recently, the last hundred years or so, there was – for
most of us – no question of our true working selves ever finding expression in our labours.
We worked to survive and would be grateful for a minimal income. But such reduced expectations
no longer hold. We know – because there are enough visible examples of people who
have done so – that we could harness our talents to the engines of commerce. We know
that we don’t have to be unhappy in this area, which adds a feeling of particular shame
if we still are. We should not be so hard on ourselves. We don’t yet have the mechanisms
in place to reunite ourselves with our purpose. It is in the nature of our working selves
to be both clear in their dissatisfactions and yet maddeningly oblique about their real
direction. We can both be utterly sure that we are not doing what we should while wholly
at sea about our genuine purpose. The answer is patience, structure and steadfast intent.
We need some of the discipline of the detective, or an archaeologist reassembling the pieces
of a smashed jar. We should not dismiss our angst blithely as ‘the Sunday blues’,
to be assuaged with a drink and a film. We should see it as belonging to a confused yet
utterly central search for a real self that has been buried under a need to please others
and take care of short-term needs for status and money. In other words, we should not keep
our Sunday evening feelings simply for Sunday evenings. We should place these feelings at
the center of our lives and let them be the catalysts for a sustained exploration that
continues throughout the week, over months and probably years, and that generates conversations
with ourselves, with friends, mentors and with professionals. Something very serious
is going on when sadness and anxiety descend for a few hours on Sunday evenings. We aren’t
a bit bothered to have to end two days of leisure; we’re being driven usefully to
distraction by a reminder to try to discover who we really are – and to do justice to
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  2. 'Such reduced expectations no longer hold?' I think that's a massive over-statement. For many work is just about surviving. Even a job that gives you great fulfillment eventually can become something you resent bitterly because it does not allow you to get from one day to the next without constant worry. I've had great jobs, bad jobs, jobs I loved, and jobs I hated, jobs that paid well, and jobs that paid nadda. None of them took away the fear that it could all end tomorrow.

  3. You're taking something that mostly everyone experiences and twisting that common feeling with unsubstantiated connections to prove a point. No, i don't think that the Sunday evening feeling is a product of "a bad job".

  4. Of course, no one would really be that unhappy with their career if they could pick whatever they wanted, but you need to go to school to do big, complex, important jobs. And you need money to go to school, at least in the U.S. You need to work to make money. And people end up getting stuck in a job that doesn't pay enough to help them move up in the world.

  5. Fantastic video. Over the last few years I have made my dissatisfaction with my current vocation a recurring topic of conversation with my family and many of my friends. My boss even knows that I'm seriously thinking about moving on. Although I don't yet know what I want to do next, talking about the issue with a lot of people (even my dentist) has made the possibility of dramatic change more real for me. And, of course, networking!

  6. wow like how can someone feel like you do? this is positive proof of something supernatural. how would this feeling that cant be comprehended or explained in unambiguous terms be felt by so many of us? and is really hard to define. what they say could be completely wrong. Ive never heard of this phenomenon. other than guesstimate the rainy day blues? i like rainy days. but this is shared among us my wife doesn't experience it and shes lost. actually id rather be her. good luck. what other mind trips are we going to experience.

  7. So… the solution is to 'get a better job'? We'll the reality is that 95% of jobs are shit and you don't get to just choose one of the good ones. You need qualifications and experience. If you want to be an artist or writer or something you will find the amount of competition makes it almost impossible. Even So, i have a pretty good job but I still get Sunday blues because i still face the fact that I have to go do it instead of a million other things I'd rather be doing if I were truly free

  8. 11 hours spendt on my job (including travelling time), 6-7 hours of sleep , 2-3 hours for buying groceries, clean the house, cook, take a bath.. When I get to live those 4-5 free hours, Im already tired as hell and all I can think of is how impossible is to focus on yourself when you've spendt all of your daily energy doing stuff you don't really want to.. I call this everyday feeling..

  9. I'm thinking the same thing. I hate Sundays, it feels like we're on transition to school and work.

    It was uploaded on my 20th birthday, which is actually Sunday! Sour luck.

  10. To be honest i get this feeling whenever i leave university at fridays i strongly dislike uni and i don't have any friends, but i don't know i think i just crave human interactions and feel comfortable when i'm not in my room suffering from non ending insomnias..

  11. I agree with everything in the video. However, I don’t think it’s the only reason for Sunday evening blues. Another is definitely the abrupt change that Monday represents in terms of daily routine. You have to get up early and therefore get less sleep. Compared to a Sunday, Monday is very hectic. You’re forced to do something rather than do it voluntarily. I find that by Tuesday, you’re normally back in the rhythm again.

  12. Surely thinking you should have certain type of job is just having a massive ego.

    No one is special, life is hard, and you need money to eat. Don't feel bad or pressured

  13. Sundays make me feel like shit, employed or not. My grandpa was infamously crabby on Sundays as well. Johnny cash sang about it in "Sunday Morning Coming Down" so I don't really feel it's about work. There's some other existential ambiguity happening there.

  14. The vocabulory needs to be a bit more simpler so that people around the world, from varying cultures can understand the content. The pacing and diction is spot on.

  15. I don't like weekends. I feel creepy on weekends. I feel "safer" on weekdays. The city is like a ghost town on weekends and I dread the feeling.

  16. Is this just a prima facie suggestion designed to convince us that we are socially justifies to hate our jobs by mere socially charged inferences to a random sample of idealists. Love or hate are not mutually exclusive with choice of work. These emotions are the dependent variables and attitude the manipulative one. Nice try school of life, but my stoicism proves to be repelling the strength of this agreeable article

  17. I enjoy the career I have chosen, it's practically my hobby as well, but I still hate going to an office for 8 hours a day.

  18. sundays (and saturdays too) are so depressing I want to scream "KILL MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!"

  19. I feel like everyone gets this no matter how much they dislike their job. Also this “feeling” is dramatized, don’t quit your day job out of the blue, have a plan. And go to Church, I always feel better after Church

  20. i have a job that i love and that i look forward to on monday mornings- but i STILL get that melancholy feeling on sunday evenings. as much as i love my job, sunday evenings also mean you lose the ability to shape your time however you like, and that's a bit of a bummer.

  21. I love all your videos but I actually disagree with this one. I LOVE my job (I used to hate my old one) and I still get this feeling on Sunday evenings. so I think mine just stems more from not having fit as much as I wanted to into Saturday/Sunday even though I value my work coming Monday-Friday. I just regret not having done all the things I wanted during Saturday and Sunday and I don’t have time for those things Monday-friday

  22. If you experience this kind of feelings on Sundays, it means that either you are not happy in your job or you work in a very stressful environment. I used to have the same feeling which used to take out my happiness and self satisfaction every from me Sunday evenings and the saddest part is when the alarm start ringing in the early morning on Mondays 🙁 . Believe me when you find a job in which you genuinely enjoy what you are doing, you will never feel this feeling anymore, especially if you start working in your own project. Working in others' projects sucks and only brings misery.

  23. I just hate Sunday, it's very stressful and I get anxiety easily and I can never get to sleep on Sunday it's an absolute pain.

  24. I am going to watch this video. It is 2 am.I kinda feel that I will be even more depressed after watching.Wish me luck.😑

  25. This is literally what I am feeling right now, it's a Sunday evening here in England and I am feeling so sad and bored due to the fact I have school tomorrow and so much work to do. ;C

  26. Lol I always had this feeling and always thought it was just me being bored about working. Now I can say it's an actual thing.

  27. The worst Sunday gloom I had was coming home after our honeymoon. I was jet lagged and hated my job. I showed up to work sleeping less than 3 hours. Ugh.

  28. I bet this didn’t exist so much whenever & wherever families stayed in the same business for generations. B/c when ur parents & their parents have all been doing one thing, then ur born w the right talents & drive for whatever that thing is.

  29. I couldnt care what day of the week it is. Its more about having to deal with all the grumpy miserable people at work on a monday morning.

  30. This resonates with me so strongly. I've always been artistically inclined and although I love science I was never very strong at maths. I worked for years as an environmental engineer and although I felt good about having a positive impact on the planet, I felt very unfilled at work and felt like I'd never be as technically competent as my colleagues. I finally quit without having anything lined up, I moved to another country and after months of unemployment and uncertainty I finally got a job as an urban designer. I haven't experienced the Sunday feeling once since.

  31. I purposely watch this video because it is Sunday evening and I've discussed this Sunday feeling with a friend in the past, though we noticed it was not just in the evening it would happen. Her friend said that Sunday when you feel good would feel wonderful and yet if things weren't going so well for you it was just the worst, saddest . However, I work in on Saturdays… Sunday for me is only the first day of my weekend, and yet I still have that feeling. And I really like my job. I feel like it has less to do with that and more to do with the fact that Sunday is the day when everything pauses (for the most part) and so it creates a reflective time that is coupled with a sense of empty endingness. I find the feeling a bit more abstract and hard to grasp all makes sense of than the direct connection he is making to working life. But who knows! Interesting to see how universal this feeling is though! Sending love to everyone this Sunday evening! ❤️

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