Shock Trauma First Aid || Education EPISODE || with Irene Lyon

– Hey there you guys, Irene here. And quick little vlog for you today. It is the time of summer right
now when I’m recording this and it’s also the time of riding bicycles. Lots of bikes are outside,
I live down by the ocean here in Vancouver
so there’s a bike path. There’s many bike paths,
lots of kids on bikes. And I wanna talk about
falling off of bikes and it doesn’t even have
to be off of a bike. It could be tripping on the sidewalk and hurting yourself or stubbing your toe. More minor accidents,
things that don’t require ambulance and medical attention but enough that let’s say if it’s a
child, they get shaken up a little bit and maybe
some tears are there. Maybe a little bit of a bloody knee. Bit of a bruise, a scrape. One of the things that you
know about me if you’ve been following me is I’m all
about nervous system health. Now when a child or an adult
falls and hurts themselves, it is prime opportunity
to actually work with the nervous system in a positive way. What often happens and I
used to teach this in my live seminars as I asked
people, how many here when you fell when you
were little, were told or sweep up right away
and told you’re okay. It’s not that bad, don’t cry, get over it. Be a big girl, be a big
boy, that kind of thing. Now I’m sure a few of you are nodding yes, maybe some of you, it didn’t
happen and that’s wonderful. But for all those children
that are denied their feeling and their sensation cause I
can tell you if you as an adult were to fall and scrape
your knee, it would hurt. It would sting right? You may feel tears come
up, you may feel anger because you stubbed your toe or you tripped over something you didn’t see. That’s real emotion and when
we teach children to stop that emotion, we’re
essentially starting them on the apprenticeship of
not feeling themselves. And that is another topic altogether. But in terms of physical injury,
when we injure ourselves, let’s say falling off the bike
and we don’t take the time to regroup, reset our nervous system, we will then let’s say
get back on that bike. We will not be oriented
to the here and now. We’ll be stuck in our system’s
sympathetic fight flight and maybe even a little
bit of freeze energy, shutdown energy because of
embarrassment or humiliation or having to shut down the desired cry so we go really really numb,
we just kind of numb it out. If we get back on a
bike and we go into life or onto the path or if you’re
a big person and you do like mountain trails
where there’s lots of more dangerous terrain,
you’re not gonna be sure. You’re gonna be more
susceptible to falling again or to injuring
yourself, that kind of thing. So if I bring it back to the little kid, let’s just pretend it’s
a little kid that falls. Say you’re looking after
your nephew this summer and they fall, give the kid a chance to respond to the accident. Obviously you wanna make
sure that they aren’t any, there’s no cars or traffic, safety first. If it means bringing them
over, come on let’s get you over to the curb or to the grass. Don’t walk away, stay there
and say I’m just gonna stay right with you here so you can
process what just happened. Now if that child is used to
being picked up really quickly and brushed off, they might
get a little confused. But if you stick with it
and let them do what their physiology wants to do which
is maybe have a bit of tear. Maybe to say ow, this hurts. You can allow their natural nervous system process to come down. By engaging with them and
being with them there, you lessen the chance of them going into traumatic stress symptoms,
traumatic stress responses. You’ll take them from that high high level of feeling kind of that
over stimulation of falling and you’ll bring them
back down so that they can then engage with you
and what’s around them. And then they’ll just be more alert when they get back on that bike. Maybe let’s say they don’t
wanna get back on the bike. Don’t force them right? Walk your bikes home, help
them process in the way that they want to as
opposed to forcing them so that it’s convenient for us or for you. So that’s what I wanna talk
about today, real short bit. I’m gonna link below this
one of my old injury, one of my old injuries, my injury. But an article I wrote about an injury, about stubbing my toe. Lessons learned from stubbing my toe and how I took myself through this process of I stubbed my toe
pretty badly, I waited. I sat down on the sidewalk,
I let the intensity go off. I let some tears come through. I let my system come down
and what occurred was that the next day, I had no injury. There was no bruising, none of it. Whereas I can recall
previous years before I knew this knowledge, I would just get up. I kind of limp away, right? Sting a little bit and then
the next day it would be sore. I couldn’t put my shoe
into my foot into a shoe. So I’m gonna link that below,
have a read of that as well but if I wrap back, the
reason it’s important to allow our children especially to
experience those qualities, those sensations of pain,
tears, whatever it is, it’s allowing them to be
familiar with internal struggle and conflict and pain and suffering. And we don’t want to deny that
and if they can process that in the comfort and in the
connection of another human being, it means that not only will
they be able to self regulate and self soothe as time goes
on, but they’re gonna learn how to do that for others, right? For others, so it’s
about being empathetic. It’s about connecting, it’s
allowing that little person or big person to feel
what they are feeling in the present moment, I
cannot stress that enough. So important, we’ve raised
so many adults that I know of in my practice that
have been taught to just shut up, don’t cry, don’t be
a crybaby, don’t be a sissy. All those sorts of things,
I think you get it. If you are new to me, if
you’re new to this channel, head over to my website, Subscribe to my newsletter
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videos pretty much every week when they come live and
you can learn more about your nervous system,
how to keep it healthy. Today was a much more
basic, more simple lesson. As we go into the summer
and into the year, I’m gonna dive into more
intricate detailed teachings on the nervous system,
what it is, and what you need to do to keep it
healthy and take care of it. Take very good care and
we’ll see you next time.

2 thoughts on “Shock Trauma First Aid || Education EPISODE || with Irene Lyon”

  1. I've heard so much about this in parenting, but hearing it from you in this way really clicks and I can take it deeper with my kids now. Thank you!

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