Intercrural (And Other Non-Penetrative Gay Sex) | Gay Sex Education 🏳️‍🌈


hello beautiful people welcome to
today’s video today we’re going to be talking about another form of non
penetrative sex I think it’s really interesting to talk about non
penetrative sex I’ve made a couple other videos about different positions and
different forms of sex mostly talking about sex within the gay community but I
think a lot of these things can be applied quite broadly to other sexual
identities and orientations and I think that sex is so often defined exclusively
through the lens of penetration and it’s interesting to examine the holistic
world of sex which is way bigger than just penis goes into vagina or anal butt
sex or whatever you generally think of as sexual intercourse intercrural technically means between the
legs but it tends to refer to sex through penetration of legs or sex
involving legs in some way generally speaking it would involve somebody with
a penis penetrating two legs that are held firmly together this can be done
with lubricant to create a sensation that’s similar to being penetrated but
is in fact obviously completely non penetrative it’s interesting because a lot
of people would discount intercrural sexual intercourse as intercourse and
wouldn’t consider it sex at all but the sensation is quite similar in the way
that those two bodies are interacting is quite similar intercrural can be great for
a number of reasons because for one thing you don’t have any risk of
pregnancy your risk of SDI’s is generally much lower even things like
genital warts that can be passed through skin-on-skin contact often don’t apply
in case of intercrural because usually that involves genital on genital contact
so you can actually have intercrural sex in a way that’s very very safe and can
actually be extremely pleasurable especially if you involve lubricant now
I’m just gonna over share here and say that I have never actually had any
experience of intercrural at all so really I’m not the most qualified to
make this video but there aren’t a lot of people talking about this and this
fits into my brand of talking about non penetrative forms of sex so I just want
to say right off the bat that I’m gonna talk about some other forms of non
penetrative sex in here that are very similar to intercrural as well because
even though intercrural is specifically referring to leg penetration I think
that that idea of non penetrative friction in that form can apply to a
number of different positions and scenarios so the past on this channel we
talked a lot about frotting and frottage which is where you have two penises and you rub
them together to create friction to create sexual pleasure it’s a very
enjoyable form of gay sex that isn’t really talked about a whole lot in my
video I call it the most underrated type of gay sex I do think that non-penetrative sex is extremely underrated especially in the gay community which is
very obsessed with anal sex I encourage you to check out that video I will link
it down below now there isn’t really a lot to say about what intercrural is
it’s obviously very obvious it’s penetrating the legs isn’t really a lot
to kind of go into talking about what intercrural is or the ways that you can
experience intocrural sex and you know let me know in the comments down below
whether or not you have done intercrural or whether you would or whether it
interests you or your thoughts about it I’d be very curious to know your thoughts but I want to talk now a little bit more
generally about stuff that’s kind of similar to intercrural sexual interaction
which I don’t know if there’s really a sexual term for this I think that when
we talk about non penetrative sex there’s very little knowledge about non
penetrative sex it’s often not regarded as sex at all most people would probably
be like what because people are so focused on penetrative sex that they
don’t even know that there is a sex life outside of that
so frotting and intercrural I think they’re like some of the two big things that
people might know about like people might know what frotting or intercrural is like it’s
possible it’s quite unlikely but I feel like frotting and frottage are terms
that encompass a lot of non penetrative sex and then intercrural of course is one
of those forms of non penetrative sex but I think that there’s a couple sex
positions here that are quite similar to frotting and quite similar to frottage
and intercrural but aren’t quite like encompassed by either of those
terminologies so specifically I want to talk about a form of potentially you
could refer to it as frottage which is kind of similar to intercrural but it’s
taking that sort of thrusting in that penetration and moving it up the
body a little bit so literally if you just take that kind of thrusting non
penetrative interaction and just move it up the body you can have a very similar
experience you know whether you’re kind of having missionary style sex chest
to chest you can still have that form of penetration that is not between the legs
but between you know two peoples torsos that can create an extremely similar
effect now especially if you’re involving lubricant in this this can be
in my opinion just as enjoyable as any other form of penetrative sex I think it
can be more enjoyable sometimes than also tends to be pretty much risk-free
or at least very very low risk and this is something that really to me is not
described by frottage I really wouldn’t say that this counts as frottage I
think it’s something different I also don’t think it really counts as intercrural either now there may be a term for this let me know if there is down below
I think that it’s a great way for two men to have sex that isn’t really
considered part of gay sex and I think that that’s kind of unfortunate because
it’s not quite grinding it’s not quite frottage it’s not quite intercrural and
it’s a lot of fun so this is why I love talking about these things because
regardless of how you feel about having the NSFW the conversations about sex and
sexuality the reality is these things aren’t talked about a whole lot and
people have a very close-minded perspective on their own sexuality and I
personally think that that’s extremely unfortunate and to be clear even though
I celebrate non penetrative forms of sex a lot and even though that is a big focus
of my sex education on this channel penetration is great there’s nothing
wrong with penetration I have nothing against penetration so just to be clear
I’m not anti anal sex I’m not anti vaginal sex I’m not anti penetration
whatsoever I think oral anal and vaginal I think that those are all you know
great forms of sex I think that penetration is fine and wonderful enjoy
your penetrative sex there’s nothing wrong with it and whether or not you
love penetrative sex in general or whether or not you save penetrative sex
for a certain person or whether you don’t like penetrative sex at all you
know whether you are potentially asexual and just omit all forms of penetrative
sex I know that some people identify on the ace spectrum and just don’t
have any forms of penetrative sex and then I also know a lot of people in the
gay community identify with the term side because they don’t like anal
penetration whatsoever and that’s absolutely fine people experience
sexuality in different ways and enjoy different facets of sexuality and that’s
a beautiful part of the human experience I will say that I have identified less
with the term side as I have gotten older and that’s just a little bit of
oversharing to kind of update you guys on where I’m at with sexuality and how I
sort of understand my own experience of gay male sexuality so whether you
asked for that information or not there you go I still I would I say that I
identify partially with that term at least sometimes
but I feel like my understanding of the word and my participation with that
label has kind of evolved as I’ve gotten older but I don’t think that that makes
any of my previous sex education surrounding being a side invalid
you know it’s definitely an experience that I had for a really long
time and an experience that I still to an extent share I still think that non
penetrative forms of sex are often better and more fun and something that’s worth
highlighting so that’s why I’m making this video today anyway that’s all I
have to say about intercrural sex and other forms of non penetrative gay male sexual
interaction I hope that you guys enjoyed this video I’m really curious to know
what your thoughts on intercrural are below let me know as well if you know
what the term is for sort of those other forms of non penetrative sex if there is
line or just what you think about non penetrative sex between gay men or in
general what you think down below I’d be really curious to know your thoughts
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21 thoughts on “Intercrural (And Other Non-Penetrative Gay Sex) | Gay Sex Education 🏳️‍🌈”

  1. Thanks for watching another video from Bradley Birkholz Tube (what did you THINK BBTube meant?!) Also a huge thanks to the viewer who introduced me to this term! You were the inspiration for the video.

    Y'all I think this is my finest sex education video to date and I'm pretty heckin' proud of it. If you want to support my work with a couple dollars I'd be very grateful! https://patreon.com/bradleybirkholz

  2. LOL. As soon as I saw your title, the first thing that came to mind was, “why are guys having sex with their legs and ankles?!?” Your ankle joint is also known as your talocrural joint. Hehe. Yeah, I’m a big nerd.

    As for intercrural sex, I’ve done it many times…usually on the receiving end so there’s no pleasure for me…but making my sexual partner happy makes me happy…I just j/o after and I’m good. It’s usually with me laying on my stomach and it’s almost like he’s topping me from behind…but instead of penetrating me, his penis would just go between my thighs. My thighs are very naturally muscular so if I hold them together very tightly, they’ve all said that it feels like penetration. After they ejaculate between my legs, it’s really easy to clean up.

    Don’t get me wrong, I love anal sex a lot…but it’s not always necessary. It depends on if there’s time, if I’m clean, where we’re at, etc.

    Bradley, have I ever told you when I came out to my mom? It would make it clear why I’m very comfortable talking about sex. Hehe.

    PS – I really love these videos ‘cause I feel like you’re normalizing gay sex and it makes both straight, and gay, people feel more comfortable talking about it. And to those who say that we’re shoving it in their faces…they’ve been shoving straight sex in our face for decades, and we don’t complain about it. *mic drop* Hehe.

  3. Bradley, I love one of your videos about intercrural and other non-prentrative gay sex, but it's educational and it's very important, so I'm happy for you!!! 😊

  4. Everyday is a school day. Thanks for the educational video. I'm Ace and I don't think this way of having seks is for me. But everybody who does like this way of having seks Have fun!

  5. “Whole package” – I see what you did there! 😉 This is a very good discussion of a topic tthat isn’t talked about very much. I do still believe that the word “frotting” is pronounced to rhyme with “plotting” rather than with “doting,” and “frottage” is pronounced more like “ménage” than “cottage.” (I can’t think of a word that actually rhymes with “frottage.”) I know that’s picky, but incorrectly pronounced words tend to grate on my ear. Other than that, though, well done as always!

  6. Warts will still get passed. Just get vaccinated people. This video needs a counter for how many times you say penetrative sex and penetrate.

  7. Intercrural and oral are the extent of my experiences with the latter being 20+ years ago in my teens are why based on typical definitions I label myself a virgin. So I thank you for talking about it. For my primary partner in my teens I believe it was just about pleasure for me especially near the end of our friendship hindsight says it was the sign I was gay. That said I actually rather desperately want the experience of anal sex ideally both positions with the same partner just to finally know if it's something I enjoy. Labeling ourselves ( i.e. top, bottom or verse) has been so ingrained in gay society that being unable to honesty answer the question makes me feel isolated and perhaps faux gay. I do appreciate you Bradley but my financial situation doesn't afford me showing support that way at this time.

  8. your videos are a refreshing change but I feel like I should mention frot and frotting rhyme with spot and spotting

  9. Thanks Bradley…your videos are always well thought out and informative. You know about my situation from another video, so I don't have much to add here, except to say a big thank you! How are things working out for you with your visa situation (I could have missed that, if so I am sorry). Bless you, dear Bradley.

  10. I have tried intercrual (it's great if you're AFAB and dysphoric about being penetrated!) but had no idea there was a name for it so thank you for the education!

  11. Intercrural. I'm far from a prude but never heard the term/word. For me, I tend to lump them all into a category of grinding. Learn something every day.

  12. During the 80s and early 90s, it is my experience that many guys used intercrural sex as a safe alternative. People wanted to enjoy intimacy without fear of HIV transmission.

  13. Bradley… I read about what you were speaking about. I admit I got lost in what you were saying , but your brought it together and by the end, I understood your points in the video. You shared where you are in your own personal journey to relate. Not a bad idea. Thank you for opening up and doing these different videos on your channel.

  14. Je pense que tu réponds de façon sous-entendue, mais si ce n'est pas trop délicat, pour quelle raison te dissocies-tu de plus en plus du terme side? (Voilà, on te trouve d'autres utilités pour ton français! )

  15. Your videos are always so inspirational and I love the diverse perspectives you give on sexual education, thank you. btw yes to all the q's 🙂

  16. I have done intercrural sex as well as intergluteal sex and frot. I enjoy all three very much! I don’t fully identify with the term side either and the term is still not well known which if I do use it is usually to try to get to be more mainstream. I certainly usually prefer non-penetrative sex, but I’m not opposed to penetrative sex and sometimes that’s what I’m wanting to do with a guy. Most of the time when intercrural sex was done by me it was in the shower with a boyfriend who was taller than me (I’m 5’5” and he was 5’10”). In fact he’s one of the few guys I’ve been with and dated that was happy to enjoy non-penetrative sex. At first this was because we both identified as tops. For him it was just because he hadn’t been with anyone he wanted to bottom with and for me it’s because I have Crohn’s and so I figured it would hurt a lot since that area does get painful on its own when there are flare ups. We eventually did try with each other. Bottoming wasn’t his favorite (actually oral sex and being rimmed were his favorite) because he says that it seems like most lubes are more about the top than the bottom as the ones he preferred to use usually had to be ordered online rather than purchased in a store be it lgbtq focused or not. For me, bottoming isn’t a favorite due to the Crohn’s which if it even slightly agitated makes that entire area hurt even without any penetration. So in those instances when we didn’t have the lube he liked or my Crohn’s was bugging me, we’d engage in non-penetrative sex like frot, intergluteal, intercrural, and other positions I’ve never heard names for. I certainly enjoyed the creativity that went into it together and honestly I like that about it. I think people who only think of sex as being only a limited thing are robbing themselves of a lot of fun that comes with getting creative and exploring each other’s bodies to bring pleasure. It’s certainly not an easy find whether seeking a boyfriend, long term relationship, or just friends-with-benefits most guys I meet just want either oral or anal sex. I rarely meet guys into being rimmed, etc, even though that’s fairly mainstream. Coincidentally I know more twenty/thirty something year old straight guys who have explored more of this stuff with girls than gay/bi guys their age with guys. When I inquire how they learned about it they usually mention that they either read about it in a book that included stuff about sex with the same sex or heard about it from a sexpert who usually identified it as something heterosexual couples can try as its something done between homosexual couples and is recommended by the sexperts as a must try. I live in a “rural” area so maybe that difference is because of internalized homophobia by gay/bi guys? (thinking that’s a possibility as many guys say they’re “straight-acting” or say they’re looking for “straight-acting” guys even though I know plenty of straight guys that aren’t anything like the guys claiming to be “straight-acting”). Awesome video! Keep up the great work!!!! And if you get the chance, try intercrural. I think you’ll enjoy it…especially if you’re in the shower with a sexy, taller-than-you guy! 😉

  17. I have occasionally done this in the past but more into frot, its great and a shame it's underrated, i just wish it was not the case, i think videos like this will help that but lots more needs to be done. I have this constant anxiety when dating about how to approach the subject of sex and when and how to bring up the fact you dont want anal penetration, you don't mention these things too early because that's not appropriate but i have found that when you get further down the line then it can sometimes be a deal breaker, at that point i say so what, move on, but it's still very sad nonetheless. Perhaps this could be a topic for a future video Bradley?

  18. I loved this video a lot because it's really sad somehow that penetrative sex is widely seen as the ultimate/"real" sex and everything else is supposed to be "less than" or considered foreplay only and such, when actually it's totally up to people to figure that stuff out themselves and see what they like best and what not and that's part of the fun of sexuality I think; that there isn't just that one way to do things

    Super interesting that it has already been a thing in ancient greece and such! Queer history is seldom talked about anyways but combining that with sex ed is just basically non-existent it feels like to me (unless one goes on a research spree i suppose)

    Idk if there is a specific term for what you described but I agree it sorta doesn't totally fit into frottage or intercrural but I guess those are the closest terms that exist? Not sure, but at least I have seen ppl use frotting as description for things like that in general 🙂

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