Eight Tips for Child Education

On the internet there are many experts
that give parents tips on how to raise their children. And I want to read out
what they say, and you tell me if it’s correct or not according to the wisdom
of Kabbalah. So let’s start. Eventually everything passes. It’s true, only still,
you have to be responsible, it’s only about the past and not about the future.
I can’t say everything passes so I don’t care what happens, everything will pass.
No point in regretting the past? Never, because I don’t determine the outcome,
I always have to try and do my best and whatever happens, I have to agree and say:
this how it was supposed to happen. Regardless of what you do we always love
you. Depends at what age we say to our children. Suppose until the age of three
I can say that, but after that, you already have to start with the left line.
Criticism: this you should, this you shouldn’t do, this is allowed, this isn’t,
be careful, and so on. And he also has to know what’s the punishment along with
the reward. We always love you, but it doesn’t mean that we’ll always show you
love. No, you’ll also get punishments because we love you. We love you, but in
order for you not to do these bad or dangerous kinds of things anymore – you’ll
be punished. Because we love you. It’s fine to make mistakes sometimes.
Yup, man in general learns from mistakes. And he has to reach conclusions from
these mistakes, so that next time, not only that he won’t do the same things
again, but that he’ll even try not to do similar things in the future. Let’s
imagine that things will work out fine. It’s much funner to think about things
this way. It’s worthwhile, but still it has to come with a healthy attitude,
that I’ll succeed for sure if I put into it everything that I’m required to. You
don’t want to show a child that things might not pan out the way he wants them
to? That too – of course. But on the one hand there has to be confidence, that if I put
in all of my intellect and emotions and everything I have in order to achieve it,
I have to be sure that I will achieve it. Look at others, see how successful they
are. It’s good, but it also depends because every child and every person in
general has their own special qualities. Someone could be good at music, someone
at something else, football and so on. Meaning we have to nurture in a child
those qualities that he was born with. Meaning not to awaken envy
towards everything. Of course not. There is nothing to be afraid of, go all
the way. That’s not good. It’s not good. Because fear is a very correct kind of
self-defense that can protect a child, and it’s good for him to be afraid, but
that the fear will be balanced out by the intellect. What am I afraid of? Is it
true or not? For him to overcome the fear when necessary, but I don’t think that
getting rid of fear is ever good. It isn’t. It protects people. It’s not just so
that we got this quality from nature. And we see this quality also exists in
animals, and even in plants. If a plant is afraid, you can measure how afraid it is
of a certain person, and so on. It’s really disappointing what you’re going
through. You have to show it to him, but along with a balanced approach. Let’s
see why didn’t you succeed, it’s not that bad. Let’s make it so that next
time you will succeed. And even if you did succeed, then
great, good job, you did what you could. Way to go. But you should also know that
you won’t always succeed, you might be disappointed too. And if you don’t
succeed, if you’ll be disappointed, see how much it works on you. Meaning
to somehow bring them to the middle line. I believe in you and and what you do. A
child has to know that his parents are standing behind him, really, like this
wall that’s protecting him from behind. But on condition that he acts reasonably,
meaning that he takes into consideration what should I, what shouldn’t I do, what
did my parents tell me? So that as a result he’ll really have the correct
attitude toward life, a mature attitude. A bit more mature than what he is right
now. This is what we want from a child. He’s three years old, for him to behave
as though he’s three and a half. That’s how it is. A bit more. Meaning that he’ll
always have this attitude of being a bit more mature than what he really is. Is
there something you think that all parents should tell their children? The
correct attitude to our children is the golden path. Meaning not to allow
everything or to forbid everything, but to try for the child to feel
that you’re treating him the way he should treat the world. And how should
he treat the world? The way you’re treating him. In a balanced way, on the middle line,
the golden path, not good not bad. Everything’s balanced, there’s room for
everything, and to always keep himself this way.

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