Bringing up children the Dutch way | Michele Hutchison | TEDxKazimierz


[Music] how many people in the room today our parents are planning on becoming parents in the future quite a lot of you I imagine for a moment than in three to six months time you’re going to have your first baby what sort of parent you aspire to be what you want for your child you might want your child to be intelligent well educated popular perhaps or sporty but most of all you probably want your child to be happy now in our modern-day parenting culture this usually equates to the child being successful in order to be happy and in order if your child to accomplish this you’re going to try and give them the best start in life and be the perfect parent now there’s an assumption that children need and deserve all the time money and attention a parent can superhumanly provide in order to give them a competitive headstart and this has become culturally ingrained I’ve heard about the makha Bucha tradition here in Poland of the mother and presumably in progressive families the father – sacrificing themselves for their kids and their family so I think this might be relevant to you guys here today now the idea I want to share along with my co-author Rena Mae Acosta they’re putting all your energy and attention into aiming for perfection is not the best approach not for you and not for your child this is not an obvious idea at all so we want to explain why and tell you how a life experiences show this to be true being a great parent does not have to be about being the best about winning in the competition of life and it’s not necessarily a good thing to overthink parenting or over research it a more relaxed approach can take the stress out of parenting as we discovered when we move to another country now who are we how come I’m here on stage telling you not to be the best parent you can be that less parenting is more the overthinking things can damage you and your child that there’s a danger in trying too hard I’m Michele Hutchison I’m a British edit and translator I married a Dutchman and moved to the Netherlands in 2004 I was 37 weeks pregnant with my first child and he’s now a strapping young man he will be turning 14 soon my second is a very sporty daughter and she’s she’s 11 not sure I describe both my kids is happy let’s have Reena introduce herself on film hi I’m Rena Acosta a San Francisco native who found them with a Dutch boy we decided to get married settle in Holland and another cat proud parents of two boys ages 6 and almost three and they’re looking forward to baby number three this coming fall Michelle my independent II came to realize that Holland had a very liberating approach to raising children that was quite different from what our friends and family in the UK and us for experiencing the Dutch approach towards parenting was actually a breath of fresh air in Holland there seemed to be a lot less anxiety in a much more relaxed environment the parents all around us seemed happy and as the saying goes happy parents usually has happy kids but don’t get the wrong idea it certainly isn’t an anything-goes parenting approach rather is a pragmatic understanding and reasonable way of teaching and loving children the right balance between hovering and keeping a distance studies compelling UNICEF in 2007 in 2013 rated Dutch Minister happiest in the world Dutch kids were ahead of their peers in childhood well-being compared to 29 of the world’s richest industrialized countries and when you talk about the happiest kids in the world we’re describing our children who are self-aware responsible confident have healthy relationships with their family friends and peers and are able to find their place in the world and when he came to their children aiding their own happiness levels over 95 percent of them kind of themselves happy on the my satisfaction scale so I decided to talk about it titling the post the eight seekers have Dutch kids the happiest kids in the world I had no idea that people would actually read it after all I was just another mommy blogger but something about it resonated deeply with lots of people around the world the blog attracted the attention of my publisher the very one Michele left to raise her children in Amsterdam and we found ourselves co-writing the happiest kids in the world it came out last year and attracted a storm of media rights for Seoul to 12 – more than 12 countries including Poland where it was published a couple months ago now the norm in Holland is for simplicity – pragmatic family orientated Dutch it makes absolute sense to ensure that children grow up happy they maintain a healthy attitude towards their kids seeing them as individuals rather than extensions of themselves their chairs have consciously clung on to the kind of childhood most of us had and re-creating it for their own children compared to the rest of the world were hyper aware parenting is the norm Dutch kids relish in relatively unlimited freedom riding their bikes to school playing on the streets visiting friends after school all without the supervision of their parents now was that freedom she describes it sounds familiar doesn’t it and yes many of us grew up that way so why can’t we recreate this for our kids these aren’t these ideas aren’t uniquely Dutch at all many of us would love to implement them if he weren’t so worried about what other parents around us would think now let me describe five key features of the Dutch approach to family life one Dutch kids play outside unsupervised playing outside unsupervised well why not fear fear has become so dominant in contemporary society that many parents no longer dare to leave their kids unsupervised they hover over them all the time picking them up when they fall down it’s of course natural and terrifying to imagine your child been attacked abducted or worse believe me any normal parent has these fears Dutch parents taught me that the trick that it’s completely normal the trick is to let go of the unrealistic fears independent play is in the child’s best interest and my kids played outside in the park officer our house from a very young age I’d watch them so obsessively through the window and gradually lengthen the leash as they grew older according to UNICEF children the Netherlands and no less safe than anywhere else in Europe they’re no more likely to be abducted because of unsupervised play children don’t play the price for the freedom their parents allow them to Dutch kids bike in the rain while cycling in the rain isn’t nice is it but it’s in whole in Holland it’s totally normal no one thinks twice about it when I moved to Amsterdam one of the first things I got was a bike bikes are almost compulsory in our flat country weather it literally more bikes than people children start cycling at an earlier age around 4 years of around 4 years old when they start school parents teach them to cycle safely and don’t worry about them cycling on their own from about the age of 9 or so there’s a good network of cycle paths like you were trying to create here in Poland and rain gear is all you need to cope with with the terrible weather it rains a lot in Holland in terms of getting your kids out there it’s true they need to push at the start when they’re very young and it could would rather be chauffeur driven but it just becomes normal to cycle and soon they stop asking and just get on with it research has shown that cycling in all weathers make children more resilient and people who are more resilient and happier I’ve just got back from a holiday in London with my daughter as she constantly missed the convenience of her bike they’re really good for impatient children because you can just get on and go three Dutch families spend more time together a good work-life balance is not unattainable the Dutch fought for and attained a work/life balance that many parents will be mber yourself according to the latest status Dick’s Dutch work on average 32 hours a week which is the lowest in the world aside from Rwanda yet they are efficient they raked 7th in terms of productivity per capita we’re not talking about a country that’s poor but happy however there is less need for status symbols and we attribute some of the happiness to the lack of materialism in Dutch families Holland is a high achieving country that fosters creativity just look up the list of Dutch inventions on Wikipedia it’s longer than your own recent inventions include Blu ray and Wi-Fi and what older ones apparently include the stock exchange the orange carrots and the plastic bicycle mudguard the only part of a bicycle invented by the Dutch was invented by a woman for the minimum philomena of onward who also invented all kinds of other useful accessories now since they were working less many mothers and fathers dedicate one day a week or more to simply spending time with their children and a pencil in time for themselves – in Holland as I discovered when I got an office job there it’s totally acceptable to leave work at 5:00 p.m. to go home to your kids simple time together is more important than squeezing every important experience into so called quality time and another key thing to remember is that happy parents have happy kids as Reena told us pets look after themselves and these parents are great role models for their own children for the future for under tents have much less or no homework and more leisure time so my Dutch kids these guys here had absolutely no homework at primary school not having academic or pressure or homework gave my children plenty of time to do sports hobbies and play outdoors which is that great Dutch trick for getting children off the iPad in Holland it’s more important to enjoy school than to get ahead at school parents and teachers believe in letting kids grow up at their own pace there is less pressure to excel or compete with other children to be top of the class after primary school instead of getting homework children play our after-school clubs set up their own playdates or cycle off to their sports and hobbies five Dutch parents have open honest conversations with their children about sex so we’re talking about sex education that avoids creating taboos Dutch parents love open honest conversations they talk to the children about sex as soon as their children ask matching their explanations to suit how much the child can understand by teaching their children about intimacy sex and boundaries from an early age they raise children who not only lose their virginity later than in more sexually conservative countries but are more likely to protect themselves from sexually transmitted diseases like chlamydia and gonorrhea so this openness is actually a way of protecting children his Riina’s son and her pregnant belly how many people here would be completely at ease if their child asks where do babies come from in Holland it’s not embarrassing to answer questions like this we just do it in a relaxed way and knowledge about reproduction sex sexuality and intimacy empowers children to set their own boundaries later and last but not least that kids eat chocolate sprinkles on bread for breakfast okay that’s tip number six is an extra free tip but anyway don’t sweat the healthy eating in the morning it’s more important to go to school on a full stomach and the Dutch have some of the lowest obesity levels in Europe now for obvious reasons we can’t all move to Holland but many of the features of Dutch life can be replicated of course some things are harder than others and we need to be addressed on a national level for example shorter working hours unless you’re a manager then hey go ahead and send everyone home at 5:00 p.m. tomorrow it’s also hard to reduce homework at primary school or built safe cycling lanes other things require local cooperation that creating safe where kids can play unsupervised and any parent watching looks out for all the kids not just their own now this is my home street and this shared community life is typical of Holland but here are some things that you as an individual can adopt today or in the future when you become a parent the Dutch chanting parenting better so much as they’re doing less of it they’re less hands-on as it were to stop doing everything for your children let them play outside alone independence leads to self-confidence which develops self-worth and manifests as happiness allow our children to make mistakes and learn from them only then can they build up resilience the ability to face and overcome challenges Dutch parents let go of what they think their children are supposed to be and give them the chance to develop into independent confident self-sufficient beings rain in the pervasive crippling anxiety and our shared solution that we can curate and control every last detail of our children’s lives we’re not advocating taking crazy risks note the children here have on safety belts but although it’s a metaphor a nervous parent might deny these kids the pleasure excitement and a valuable opportunity to learn about balance learn from the Dutch read relatively Hren which means putting things in perspective rather than worrying about all the horrible things that could possibly happen teach and equip children with important skills such as knowing how to swim how to follow traffic rules and being vocal about personal boundaries and let’s hear from Rina again hi it’s me Rina me again there really is another kinder and more pragmatic way of parenting and we’ll leave you with this yes parenting really can be both joyful and fun if you lie yourself to relax a bit more and then while your children more freedom’s the less you do for your kids the more they do for themselves and the more empowered they will become empower them early in age-appropriate ways to do things for themselves and allow them room to fail this enables them to learn how to cope and become more resilient that they’re supposed to parenting help me become a more confident relaxed mother parenting is still a lot of work and often times thankless but if we start coming from a more honest forgiving place and allow ourselves to start enjoying Parenthood and embrace the messiness of life with a bit more Dutch pragmatism we know children will be a whole lot happier these ideas are vitally relevant to parents not just in Holland not just to us and not just in Poland but to all parents everywhere and to everyone who may be planning on becoming a parent in the future no the Dutch approach actually makes raising children less daunting my closing words to TEDx kazimierz are these do less stress less give your children the space and freedom to learn through Play let them learn through making mistakes through falling down and getting back up again on their own don’t protect children from risk but prepare them to face the world as it is and keep an honest open conversation going learn from the Dutch just as we did we built our family lives in Poland in Holland in a way we felt was much saner and more practical for us and our children we want as many people as possible to take something away from the Dutch approach to family life to be happier parents with happy kids all over the world thank you you

100 thoughts on “Bringing up children the Dutch way | Michele Hutchison | TEDxKazimierz”

  1. I immigrated to Canada when I was 11 years old and raising my kids the Dutch way never even realized my boys love playing outside. I like biking in the rain it is nice and refreshing if I could bike to work my parents always said you don't melt in the rain.

  2. At 0:13 i see this is supported by the Kindom of the Netherlands. Hmmmm…
    The story is true, but only for rich, healthy , highly educated upper class people. That's approx 15% of the Dutch polulation.

  3. Bringing up your children the Dutch way? The title already made my skin crawl. Wherever you go on this planet, you can easily pick the Dutch kids out of a crowd. Most of them are loud and obnoxious, raised by parents who themselves think the sky is the limit and the universe was especially made for them.

  4. Holland are the two most Western and lowest provinces (some parts below see level) of The Netherlands. Referring to Holland when you mean The Netherlands is like talking about America by saying Carolina.

  5. Haha! "Dutch kids bike in the rain". Amazing that that is even an issue. We cycled to school regardless which weather (5km per ride). I hated the rain suites, but it fed my passion to ride my bike fast even more. We even rode our bikes when it was freezing (below zero degrees celcius). I can remember my friends falling off their bikes on a slippery bend. Yes you hurt but after one fall you'r not falling anymore. And please, please, please!? Never ever use training wheels! It will only prolong the time needed to learn cycling. Put the saddle down so their legs can reach the floor and take off the pedals or even the cranks. Once they start putting their feet up zipping along you can put on the pedals again and when they are save doing that put the saddle up.

  6. in holland u have 2 kinds of parents – the new parent 25 and 1 child, know that they need more space to grow. or the old parent 50 and paranoid u break something – i had to be patient. didn't get money i needed to do stuff (cleaning up) to get money, and yes.. in a small city you can let your kid run around with friends, but if you live in the big city's my mom now even would be scared if i would've played in the big city. … now i have a fascination to move to the big city's. the 2002 2003 kids need do hug their parent and say '' thanks for giving freedom to play and get myself in danger because we wander off to wherever '' my little sister, yesterday, was at the other side of the train rails playing outside on opposite site part of town. I KNOW THERE ARE FENCES BUT STILL keep eye on children till 13 pls!

  7. Dutch guy here.

    You barely have homework until you reach highschool and after that you suddenly have to do 2 hours a day. Kids are never prepared for that and have a really hard time coping with going from zero to 100 in a matter of no time at all

  8. Very nice, this “Dutch way”.
    However, nowadays these kids are spoilt and unbehaved. Running around in trains, screaming in shops and absolutely NO correction by parents.
    Furthermore, this ‘work-private balance’ is being abused alot to work as less a possible.
    Also, the fact that education is less pressured leads to less general knowledge.
    All the ingredients for the often baseless Dutch OVERCONFIDENCE.

  9. I am nearly 20 and the older I get, the more I feel like 2hours of homework I had in secondary school do more harm than good. When I was a teen I had to choose between work and friends, I ended up choosing neither

  10. Only 17M live in The Netherlands. Not sure this scales up. Besides, if the Dutch way were so great, New York would still be New Amsterdam. "No homework…no pressure to compete." Sounds like the Dutch raise a lot of slackers that fall into drug culture.

  11. I am Dutch born in 1972 and when a kid pissed you off in the day you punshed him in the face.

    Refrase that anno 2018.

    This is make belief.

  12. Being vocal about personal boundaries? Ironic. How do you reconcile that statement with Dutch conformity “doe maar gewoon”

  13. I agree with most of the things u say. I just want to say that children are happy but teens aren’t. The difference between child and teen is a big.

  14. What an interesting speech. As a Dutchman myself I wasn't even aware that the way children are brought up is so different compared to other countries.

  15. There are people who are confused about the fact Dutch, Holland and the Netherlands. I will tell you exactly. 1. I am a Dutch man. 2. My country is the Netherlands and I live in North Holland

  16. This video is awesome. I am Dutch, and growing up here was awesome. I've enjoyed being a kid for a long time. My parents are very open, and also raised me like such. However, obviously not all Dutch parents are like this. I've had friends who had to sneak around, while my parents talked to me about everything.

  17. I am born and raised Dutch living in the US for a long time. For the past year, I have been tutoring kids and I still use the Dutch approach in my work. I teach my students to be self-sufficient so that no matter the quality of their teacher they can succeed in their education. It is interesting to hear this TED talk and to understand that I am tutoring the way I was brought up. Thank you.

  18. In my experience Dutch parents either are overprotective and make too much rules or can’t control their kids. But maybe that’s just where I live..

  19. This could've been a much more efficient / interesting talk. Never in a TED talk have I seen someone at a podium / reading from papers / use a video of someone else talking at length. The content has value, but this is never what TED talks were meant to become. She could've expressed more value in 8 minutes if she put quality time into this.

  20. this is completly contradicted to the stories of people around me, I'm dutch, and the majority of the highschoolers are batteling depresions and anxiaty. they are forced to achieve, because as it is told, otherwise you waste your future.
    yeah maybe we have happy kids, but the system destroys that at teenage age

    and 32h work week? are you daft, people who don't work or work partime should be taken out of these calulations.
    highschool kids, have 8h school mon-fri and about 4h housework besides that everyday of the week.

  21. It doesn't rain a lot in Holland, like was said. If you bike everyday to school, well, then the rain will hit you sometime.

  22. Very nice little presentation about 'the Dutch'. Ofcourse we're talking about indigenous Dutch. So the original white Dutch family. Not the the muhammedan invaders of Holland.

  23. I never worked after 5 pm and I don't see why I would have. They didn't pay me to work after 5pm. When I was still working they even tried to let us work on saturday because there was still work. The answers they get was 'hire more people' instead of 'sure'.

  24. This is totally not true about homework. I am a Brit living in The Netherlands with my dutch partner and two children. The children do get homework from about the age of eight. They gradually get more how older they get. When I was in the U.K. I don't remember getting homework at the Primary School as most of the work was done in the class. The school days are shorter here, the school ends at 2 o' clock every day. This means that the parents end up sitting with their children, sometimes for hours, giving lessons on something which in my opinion should be done in a classroom with a qualified teacher. The education system here is all about numbers, nearly every single week they get tested for something. They get a piece of homework, get told to go home and learn it and the following week you get a tested on it. When I was at school I found it to be more creative. We had to write nearly every day, didn't matter what it was about; just what was in your head. I miss that here. I also don't like the fact that when your child joins the school at four years, that the parents have to state what level of education they have completed. I do believe that intelligence can be inherited, but there are many different reasons why someone hasn't got a University degree. It could be that the person had problems at home, or it could be that it was for financial reasons. It could also be that the person just wanted to go another direction with their career. Should my child be judged om my decisions in life? I have been living here now for over 15 years now and have to say that The Netherlands is a great country and has a lot to offer people, but don't be fooled that it is any different from any other Western country. The children here sit indoors as well with their PlayStations and iPads.

  25. Ok I’m sorry all of this is great and everything and as a Dutch Australian this definitely reflected my childhood but Australia invented wifi not the Dutch.

  26. No homework as a kid was awesome but when i got into high school i got bombarded with homework… which i did during class so still didnt have homework… and in collage oh boy i have to do homework everyday or else you are like 10% screwed.

  27. Well, some people say middle class and elite children in Holland are relatively happy because mostly at least one of their parents works part time or is a stay at home mom or dad. Homework depends on age, school, level, learning challenges or not. In my teens I never did all my homework, because it took too much tim to finish it all. I wanted to be "ready" before dinner.

  28. These are mostly true but teenagers are more tired and they feel the school system is useless because it is still backward compared to the highly and evolved intelligent kids now! More and more school dropouts have become more successful and happy compared to those who finish school….. they end up getting burned out!!!

  29. "The" Dutch way does not exist.

    The dedicated Dutch parents that do not smother their children way does exist. Sadly they are a minority.

    The cannot be bothered outnumber them. And there are the every minute is scheduled types on the other end.

    BALANCE, that's key.

    ACTION is important; find a good (primary) school. And if you can't find one, look harder. Still nothing? Found one – other parents will join you.

  30. Don’t forget the fact we don’t have guns or rifles like you do in USA! That is also a big fact we can children play outside and that makes people happy too. Greetings from The Netherlands 🇳🇱

  31. I never understood "play dates" that a n American couple wanted to arrange for their kids with my son.
    We did that once and told them our kids da here just go out like free range kids.
    The look on their faces…..
    Took a bit of convincing, but once they got used to it….

  32. You rock have got a cousin with Kiddies living in den Haag. It’s so true. Most developed countries have become nanny states. Responsibilities , boundaries….. are necessary for resilient young adults. I have always wanted to move there from Australia .

  33. Am I the only Belgian person that's tilted over the fact that we have a lot in common with everything she said, yet when people mention "The Dutch" they don't think of that small country right underneath The Netherlands that also speaks primarily Dutch :p

  34. Yeah. The country with the highest Suicide rate of teenagers… You are definitely doing a great job… sight

  35. Presenter: "for obvious reasons, we can't all move to Holland".
    Polish audience: *hold my beer…

    …Actually, gimme back my beer and watch.

  36. F××k happness give me the money.. People say money don't buy happiness..You just don't know where to f××king shop..!!!!
    🇺🇸🔫😃😎🌴🇺🇸…Trump 2020..!!!

  37. Sound like your razing a bunch snowflake.. The type of People that will cry abou beingt poor ..!!! Then they want everything for free..!!!S.M.H..!!!! SAD…!!!

  38. Your picture near the end, of all white kids playing in your neighbourhood tells me you live in a white neighbourhood. I can assure you it is a lot less shits n giggles in a neighbourhood riddled with immigrants.

    The painted picture is true for what NL used to be and in some parts still is, but is rapidly declining, due to immigration. The leftist takeover of our scholing system is also detrimental, as is everything really.

    The reason we could do this, was because we were a homogenous group of people. That invokes trust in a society. We could play outside and go pretty far too, bc all adults looked out for children, known or unknown.
    Ive lived next to an elementary school for 30 years. Obviously i had my children in that school (now adults). When i was young, no parent brought their kids to school with a car. When my children were that age, some did. Now its crammed with cars, delivering and picking up kids, every day.
    Reasons: feminism, mandatory that women have full time jobs aswell (unless their hubs make plenty, which is rare), makes it easier and safer to drive them. Immigration, to avoid unsupervised travel through immigration neighbourhoods and an increasing overall worry that an accident might happen.
    NL is not NL anymore.

  39. We dutch are just very simple and straight to the point. We just leave and finish things in time so were rarely stressed. Just do it, and stop complaining. It makes life so much easier.

  40. I am Dutch and I work with kids. Seeing this made me very proud of my country. But I got a bit annoyed by the fact that you used the word/name Holland wrong. Holland and the Netherlands are not the same thing. Holland are 2 of the 12 Dutch provinces combined: North and South Holland. So Holland only a small part of the whole country which is called the Netherlands. Its almost the same as saying Dakota and America are the same thing.

  41. Urgh 5min in to the video, 20 mins into the comment section its so horrible to be dutch in this video and fight the urges.

  42. PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT:
    To all my fellow Dutchies complaining about 'Holland v. the Netherlands'.
    Literally EVERYBODY understands what is implied when a foreign national says Holland. They have no obligation to us to use the correct term! When people come and live in our country and they make the effort, appreciate it, if not, well, whatever. Like I said, it's not an obligation. If we want to be picky about it, the obligation is on us to do it right ourselves because WE DO KNOW! If you happen to be into soccer, do you scream 'Hup Nederland Hup!'? I doubt it. Nobody cares about your 'lange tenen'. And let's face it: 'the Netherlands' is 'een hele bek vol' compared to 'Holland'.

    MESSAGE ENDS.

  43. We have a great way of parenting, but should we be lecturing parents in other countries? Should they not also have the freedom to make mistakes?

  44. I have been living in the Netherlands all my life, born and raised there. However, when I recently moved to America for middle and highschool it still is the worst experience in the academic world I have ever had. Period.

    27-page packets and tests immediately after. Annoying classmates, I always feel on edge when dealing with American classmates since they seem sooo different from Dutch classmates. There is nooo room for helping your student to follow their dreams, there is no way to help students handle immense pressure and stress, and there is not even a moment where you sit in a circle in class, and just talk and give opinions like I used to in my Dutch school. No intellectual and creative practices, more intense bullying, fear, and expensive surroundings. If I went into a Dutch classrooml it was neat and almost minimalistic, three tables with a board and stairs to a creativity room where there were scissors and supplies. ONE TEACHER who you can have a connection with over time. I can go on and on, but I am tired tbh

  45. Most parents work in The Netherlands.. so most kids are unciviliced, not educated, rude, sellfish, no discipline, .. but yeah who creates that? companies and the government and the worst of all the dictorial eu (no respect for so, not with captal letters).. so I completely disagree.. bring back uniforms, bring back military service.. man if you go to normal schools you must be happy you have a student with no license who teaches you what he just learned.. or not.. so bringing up your kids the Dutch way.. no way.. not a single hair on my head

  46. Although not the common way, there is a tendency in the Netherlands, as well as Western Europe, of parents over-neglecting their children. Accidents occur with smaller children (talking 5 years and younger) being unsupervised that drown or get killed in traffic accidents. It's a world-wide upcoming "they'll be right" attitude.
    Be sensible. Children are not adults, give them wat they need there. And don't forget to give them love, freedom and respect (which is also what they need).

  47. This is amazing to me. I grew up in the US. As a child I was forced to see a therapist because I was depressed due to having an abusive mother. The therapist was Dutch. She encouraged my mother to hit me more. She said that in Holland they beat children with a stick. She painted a picture of the Dutch as very strict authoritarian parents who believed in lots of corporal punishment. She stated that American children were all brats who needed much closer supervision and more punishment. For years, as a kid, I feared the Dutch!

  48. Another reason we don't have to work so hard to maintain our kids is because the government contributs financially.

  49. The Dutch believe that you learn more from real life situations than schoolbooks. People over here WANT to go to school. Not because of pressure but because we learn to see opportunities.

  50. Seems there are some major social and cultural factors here that only exist in the Netherlands though. Such as bicycling everywhere and also a high-trust cohesive culture where people mostly share the same values and social expections.

  51. Yep, my son was 5 years old and he climbed the tree in our garden on his own…… still wearing his wooden shoes. Yes, he is still alive and well and is now 20 (not on wooden shoes anymore).

  52. Great information but they should have had a more professional person presentation (meaning someone else should have been presenting). The reason this had so little impact is because them made a super interesting topic boring and trivial.

  53. No football clubs in the 50's. We played street soccer and no goal posts or goal keepers. We had to hit the lamppost on the end of the street and the other team had to hit the lamppost on our end of the street. No umpires the kids had a good sense of ethics. A cheat was immediately condemned to be on the same level as Real Madrid. Yes in those days we were allowed to be what we call now politically incorrect.. Move to the 21 st century and found the present generation a bunch of Zombies with no imagination and playing video games in a make believe virtual reality.

  54. lol foreigners have been talking for centuries about the dutch upbringing even the french back in the 17th century were quitte amazed how we raise our children on an almost equal level!

  55. Kid play outside unsupervised in other countries as well and cycle in the rain and get varying levels of homework think this isn't unique to Holland?

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