11 Parenting Mistakes That Ruin a Child’s Growth

All parents have their own – unique – way
of bringing up their kids. They do their best to raise them, but nobody’s perfect. That’s
why, when they look back, they all want to fix some of the mistakes they made in the
past. Here are some of the things they regret, so you can avoid making the same mistakes. 1. They scolded their children too often
Reprimanding a child for something they did wrong is totally normal. But sometimes parents
go overboard and it turns into nitpicking. Some parents believe that the higher their
expectations are for their children, the more successful the kids will be in the future.
But it surely doesn’t work this way. Scolding a child for every little mistake can lead
to behavioral problems. Punishments for bad grades are also harmful. They can kill off
the desire for learning in any child. And, of course, being too strict can have another
huge downside – a poor relationship with your child. That’s why you should only punish
your kids for things that actually matter. A broken cup shouldn’t be on that list. 2. They missed out on the most important moments
in their children’s lives. Of course, every parent has a lot of commitments,
and juggling all of them is no easy feat. But children desperately need parents to be
there for them. Some occasions that might not seem that important for an adult, really
mean a lot for kids. Children need to have someone close to them at moments like these.
Even if you think you have a good reason to miss your child’s school play, do your best
to be present. Find time to visit grandma, go to the theatre, decorate your house for
the holidays. Because your bond with your children gets stronger by creating memories
together. Otherwise, in the future, you’ll feel bad about how many great moments passed
you by. 3. They didn’t play enough creative games.
Of course, simply playing creative games with your kids won’t necessarily make them great
artists or musicians in the future. But, hey, there’s always a chance. Doing this has
a lot of other advantages as well. Any kind of activity, like drawing or playing with
playdough, has a positive effect on developing their intelligence, imagination, and increasing
their vocabulary. Also, if your kid is engaged in a lot of different activities, it makes
it easier for you to find out what they have an interest in and what they’re good at.
This is important since they can show promising abilities even at a young age and develop
them later. 4. They didn’t take enough photos and videos.
Obviously, not taking photos won’t have any bad impact on your kids’ lives. But
it’s the best way to capture amazing moments that you don’t want to forget. When your
kids grow up and leave home, the pictures will be there to remind you what a long way
they’ve come. Besides, looking through those pictures together with your grown-up kids
lets you relive all their milestones and those beautiful memories together. That’s why
not using a camera often enough is one of the regrets many parents can relate to. And
even though we live in a digital era, having a classic photo album can be a nice family
tradition. 5. They didn’t take their child’s opinion
into account. “You’re too young to decide”, “Adults
know better” are probably phrases you heard quite often when you were a kid. It was irritating,
right? But this kind of attitude from parents can have a serious impact on a kid’s future.
If children feel like their opinion is often neglected, they may grow up to be insecure.
And it’s logical if you think about it. How can you know what you want from life or
set your own goals to achieve if there was always someone who made decisions for you?
Of course, as a parent, you can’t go along with your kid’s every wish or desire. I
mean, your kid really can’t bring home every stray dog they meet. That’s your wife’s
job. Really! But instead of simply refusing, explain to the child why it’s a bad idea.
In some other cases, you can discuss their opinion and meet them half-way. 6. They didn’t enjoy communicating with
their child. Communication between parents and kids is
probably the most important thing in upbringing. So if you don’t put aside enough time for
it, one day you’ll wake up and realize that your child has grown up already and is living
their own life. Of course, it’s totally okay to do things around the house when your
kid is playing alone. But try not to turn it into a habit. Because children need not
only your physical presence, but emotional involvement as well, to feel they’re loved
and cared about. There’s no turning time back, so let yourself enjoy the moments you
spend together. 7. They didn’t educate them about money.
For some reason, some parents avoid the topic of money with their kids. Of course, these
children don’t believe that money grows on a tree, but they might think it just magically
appears in the ATM. Without education on personal finance and responsible spending, children
don’t understand the real worth of money. And when they grow up, they find it hard to
manage their own income. Giving your kid some pocket money will teach them how to save up
and spend wisely. Besides, you can let your teen earn their own money. They can mow the
lawn of a neighbor or babysit. Every time you go shopping together, tell your kids how
much money they can spend this time to limit their wishes. All these tips will provide
your children with opportunities to learn about things like budgeting, saving, and being
more responsible. 8. They didn’t make their child happy enough.
Good memories from our childhood are a real treasure for most of us. We like to go back
in our mind to that time when we were carefree, and quite often every day was filled with
doing something for the first time. Every child should have a lot of new experiences
and live in a healthy atmosphere. That’s what makes them happy. And when kids are happy,
they develop more actively, which means they’ll find it easier to adapt to adult life and
start new relationships in the future. So, go to an amusement park, ride ponies, and
sail a boat with your kid. Try to do something exciting at least once a day together to make
sure your child has as many happy moments in their life as possible. 9. They didn’t hug their children often
enough. Hugs are not only a perfect way to show affection,
but also scientifically proven to be good for our health, because they help protect
against stress. Besides, it’s simply nice to hug your own child. Unfortunately, sometimes
parents don’t do it as often as they should. Some of them think that being too affectionate
with a child can make them less obedient. Others – especially if we talk about babies
– believe that holding and hugging a baby all the time means that they’ll demand it
too much in the future. But the truth is, the older a child gets, the less they want
to be hugged. So, enjoy the hugs with your kids while you can. 10. They weren’t consistent.
Consistency might just be one of the biggest challenges in upbringing. For example, you
usually don’t let your kids eat unhealthy food. But suddenly you get too caught up with
work and give them pizza for lunch. Next thing you know they’re demanding it for every
meal. It may feel next-to-impossible to maintain the exact same standards for your children
daily, but not trying to do so often leads to major regrets for parents.
Kids get confused about what’s allowed and what’s not. Without clear boundaries, they
probably won’t behave the way you want them to, and obedience issues become inevitable.
Also, don’t forget that you should follow your own rules to set an example. No phone
during family dinner means no phone for everyone. 11. They often followed someone else’s advice.
There are people who just can’t help but give advice, even if nobody asks for it. And
sometimes young, inexperienced parents feel like it’s better to listen to them. Such
“experts” have tons of information about the way you should feed, dress, and raise
your children. Of course, some of it may be useful and sensible, but never forget that
YOU are the parent, so it’s up to you to decide what’s best for your kids. Also,
don’t let strangers scold your child for misbehaving. A child needs to feel there’s
always someone who will support and protect them. So, let them know they can always count
on you. What’s your favorite childhood memory? Let
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100 thoughts on “11 Parenting Mistakes That Ruin a Child’s Growth”

  1. I wish my mother would stop taking to much picture when we are on holidays. I just want her to be THERE enjoying the holiday with her kids

  2. I remember when ive been thru physical abuse by my brother.I called her to her office crying to save me but nothing. No console no hug growing up. Now that shes old and sick cant be bothered calling her. Not even a care in my heart.

  3. I wish I can show & translate this video to my parents. I want to show them how well they raised me. I’m a complete mess, no friends, insecure, at times confused 🤷🏻‍♀️

  4. I showed this video to my mom and she slapped me up. 🙁 I feel depressed and suicidal thoughts do pop up in my mind sometimes. I can't wait till I leave their home and carry on my ok I've by myself.

  5. didnt take enough photos???! Are you kidding me???
    There were some interesting things here, but THIS?
    This is one of the SHYTTIEST things I've ever heard!

  6. all the viewers are depressed adults who just work and are trying or are parents. Because we didn’t have good parents or none at all.

  7. Mistakes that ruin kids also:

    Having kids just for more federal tax returns. Most women out here in Oregon so that.

  8. I think another thing is patience. I've seen a lot of family members give up when they don't know what to do and just give their children a tablet or phone. Spending time with them and taking time doing things will definitely help raise a hally and fulfilled family.

  9. my father used to play cricket with me and many other sports… that was very nice memory of my childhood

  10. Childhood memories, hmmm

    Sitting on my bed playing video games

    Yeah I had a rough childhood

    My mom was too busy with my other siblings to care what I was doing ok to even notice me

  11. You:they might get insecure
    Me: hah no I’m a child this happens to me AND I HAVE DEPRESSION AND IM ONLY 9 AND A HALF

  12. Well how are we gonna discipline them when we don't scold them then they are bad when they are not scold

  13. “How can you know what you want from life or set your own goals to achieve if there’s always someone who made decisions for you?”

    -this hit me hard 😢 can totally relate

  14. Anyone else notice that almost every single little character in this video was white? Sorry but that's not realistic demographics and it bothers me.

  15. My mom won a lego competition, and my grandma didn't bring her to get the trophey. So, for her 44th birthday i made a trophey out of my legos

  16. My husband does not understand that my son needs his Dad physically and emotionally .he only gives money and tells me to take my son where ever he wants.

  17. I find it troubling when you say all parents so and so. My parents were nothing short of monstrous, and I was eventually removed. No, all parents do not do so and so. You should say “most” not “all”, in my opinion. Then it wouldn’t erase the experience of people like me. It is also simply more accurate.

  18. My parents never gave time to me so I don't have memories with them my elder brother raised me up being with him every time is my best memory

  19. I can't have children because of some medical issues😔😔, but still watching this desperately 😔and wishing for a child ….

  20. 4:60 though i didn't tell my 5 year toddler about money education but still when his father take leave from office my kid says dad why aren't you went to office if there is no Sunday if u take leave then what we will n what we will buy if there's no money. Actually sometimes we laugh n shocked also that my little kid is talking so maturely but we're happy that he learn something on his own. Thank u bright side cz it will give lots of parents best ideas to tackle with their children n parents will learn so many things which surely help in the future😀

  21. When my dad play the duck doll with me

    When my dad care about me when I have a motor accident

    When my mom didn't angry with me even I loss my gold necklace

    When my mom give a chance to my boyfriend to work with her and the fact let me know that he was not the perfect guy for me.

    Thanks God for my parents.
    Of course they made mistakes.. But ithey're human, not angels

  22. So far I think am a great first time mum because I have more than enough time for my baby and I capture every wonderful moments of him don't want him out of my sight for 1 minute🙂the only downfall I have is the scolding part most Times but am human cant help it…but will try my best to make it much better…but not easy with kids thou🙂

  23. Litterly all of these i renember in preschool kindergarden and first grade they would not come to school for any plays or ceramonies where i would get awards i would look for my mom and dad and they never be there compared to other kids with there families huging smileing

  24. What ever we think is right and wrong to teach no matter what Humanity became the worst ever than animal. It's called Evilness. That why I believe we need GOD.

  25. I have few (maybe 3) fond child hood memories of my parents. Most of the the mistakes the narrorator said parents make was made by my parents… the mistakes had a negative impact on me even now as an adult.

  26. No parent is perfect. We all make mistakes. Mine made mistakes but I had a happy childhood. There are a few bad memories but mostly good.

  27. how about leaving a bowl of water out and the iPad at 100% for the kids before you leave to hit the club at night? Thats the best advice ever.

  28. A mistake I definitely see alot of parents do is not hugging their children enough…for goodness sake show ur kid that u love them! I dk if it's some sort of " I'm too cool to do that" or a " he's gonna be soft thing"
    the ignorance of some people amazes me…

  29. video is good but the example of why you cant bring every dog home is wrong.. disease!.. promoting bad opinions on poor strays that have a hard life already. and teaching your kid to fear poor animals due to lurgies…shame

  30. All of the said above is my father thats why im close with my mother 🙄
    I will not treat my child just like that so he will be proud someday to have a mama like me we enjoy every single moments we have coz soon he will be adult so treasure every moments with ur child 😊

  31. for me….that is not true!!!!!because my mom raise me so bad like kept on shouting me…not attending meeting in school and not attending my graduation and not taking pictures me….but i am not feel bad to my mom…..i love my mom…even she did bad things like that….i grew have respect to them.

  32. my childhood memory was..
    steam of guava….😜
    one of my fav.

  33. I have one photo of myself as a child. And it's a passport photo. My school photos were lost. And my parents didn't take any outside of that.

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